This week I want to end this series of the last three newsletters about how you can help your child at home in the way we are trying to build independent learners and thinkers here at Tesla. This final information post is about agency which is simply supporting your child to make sensible choices and act respectfully.
How to support your child’s agency:
– Invite and involve their voice: Don’t be afraid the let them express themselves. Give space for them to articulate what they like and don’t like about learning, and why that is. Listen to when they are advocating for what they need as learners. Listen for what they really care about and matters to them and try to understand and find ways to support it.
– Respect and support their choices: Be aware of what choices you are making for your child, that they could probably be making themselves. Choices may include when they learn, where they learn, what they learn, and how they learn. Coach them to make informed choices, by making the decision making process explicit (What choice are you making for yourself?), then follow up with a reflection about how effective that choice was and whether it’s a good choice to be made again in the future (How did that choice work out for you? How do you know? What will you choose differently next time?)
– Emphasize Ownership: Sometimes learning can be something that gets mixed up as something done to learners, or around learners. This creates a false sense that they are passively drifting through the process, and have no impact on their own learning. We want learners to know it’s their learning, they own it, they impact it. It is something done by them, for them, and we are the supporting actors. Use words and phrases that build that sense of ownership over their learning.
– Be purposeful with feedback: As much as possible, when you give feedback to your child, think about how to give advice that will go beyond that one moment. As teachers, we often use phrases like, “Teach the writer, not the writing” to help us give tips that will impact that learner in a bigger, more sustainable way. Instead of just telling them how to fix something. Here are some examples of ways you can phrase that type of feedback:
“Readers…. (Often go back and re-read what they don’t understand; share their opinion about what they read; break words into small chunks to help them sound it out etc.). “Writers…. (Read their writing out loud to themselves to try and find their mistakes; use capitals to show the reader a new sentence is starting; support their opinions with facts and evidence; add details to make their writing more interesting etc.). “Mathematicians…. (Double-check their solutions for accuracy; use objects and drawings to help them solve problems; use short cuts and tricks called “algorithms”; use special words etc.)
Xin cảm ơn,
Robin Klymow
Director of Studies